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Benjamin Boyden

On Wednesday, November 14th, 2018, Benjamin Cary Boyden, loving son, brother, uncle, and friend passed away at age 40.

Benjamin was born August 19, 1978 in Woodland, California. He attended Davis Senior High School prior to graduating from the Cate School in Carpinteria, California. Following Cate, Benjamin attended Amherst college where he received his BA magna cum laude in Economics and Sociology. Benjamin spent most of his working life with the Monitor Group (now Monitor Deloitte) recently serving as Chief of Staff for Deloitte Strategy and Operations’ innovation center.

Ben, as he was called by family and friends, loved sports at an early age. He excelled as a youth in soccer and baseball, and he continued a lifelong love of soccer that he shared with family and friends. His favorite team was Barcelona (“Més que un club”). Ben was also a voracious reader of myriad topics but always had a special place in his heart for the writings of David Foster Wallace – another Amherst graduate. Ben was never far from music either. He found special solace in the music of Bob Dylan, Wilco, and Townes Van Zandt.

Ben traveled the world extensively having set foot on six continents. On one of his last trips he brought back a universal message of love and light. To the core Benjamin was thoughtful, intelligent, and kind with a great sense of humanity. He loved deeply and was deeply loved.

Ben is predeceased by his aunt Kathy, cousin Brian, and is survived by his father and mother, Cary and Suzanne Boyden, sister Katy (husband, Christopher, children Blakely, and Bo), and brother Nathaniel (wife, Anne, children Lilah and Violet). The bookshelves (and hearts) of his nieces and nephew are full because of Ben, and they will read on in his name.

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Dear Boyden Family,I was shocked and saddened to hear of Ben's passing. I think that there are human beings that, simply because they are in the world, it's a better place. Ben was one of those people. His humor and intelligence were unsurpassed. His kindness and respect for humanity were inspiring. Although I hadn't seen Ben in almost 20 years, I know I am a better person for knowing him. And to those who knew him, no matter for a short time or a lifetime, there is a space that will remain within us all.Holding you and your loved ones in my heart during this difficult time.

Keisha Chandler Jul 30 2019 12:00 AM

Hi Nathaniel - I'm Elizabeth and I worked with Ben in Chicago from October 2012-March 2014. I loved working with him and learned so tremendously much from him about life, stories, story-telling, analysis, presenting, managing people, you name it. I was crushed to hear of his death and think about him often. I wanted to reach out as I saw your note and you mentioned hanging out in Chicago - I remember on so many occasions and in multiple years talking with Ben about how he got to go see his brother some nights / weekends when he was in Chicago. It brought a smile to my face to think about how psyched he was to see you. I know it probably now seems like not enough. :( I'm so sorry. You had and have a wonderful brother. I'm sending big, big hugs to you and your whole family. Happy to connect at some point.

Elizabeth Cathles Apr 4 2019 12:00 AM

Dear Suzanne and Cary,We were saddened to read of Ben's passing in the Amherst Alumni magazine that just arrived. It was quite a while ago that our boys played together while we spent a sabbatical year in Davis in your neighborhood. And our boys both wound up at Amherst. Nice to have those ties. Hold on to all the wonderful memories and we send our love.Janice and Bill FischelHanover, NH

Janice & Bill Fischel Mar 25 2019 12:00 AM

Ben, I will miss you buddy. You are one of those friends that never left my memory and forever left an imprint on my life. Although many years had gone by without us crossing paths, hearing the news of your passing has impacted me greatly. We were childhood friends and soccer teammates (Davis Hawks) for a good amount of our youth. Those were amazing times playing together. I always admired your talent, smarts, work ethic and calm demeanor (even in the most pressure situations). And I know you also had a strong impact on the other guys around you. Thats why you were Captain. I also remembered spending the night at your home for weekend tournaments and just talking and telling stories. Your family took care of me and I never truly thanked you or them for that. I know my parents appreciated it more than they could ever express.I will never forget you my friend. I know you legacy will carry on with youre family and all the friends that were fortunate enough to have you in their lives. Our hearts go out to the entire Boyden family. The Restrepos - Alex, Felipe, Fernando, Maria and Kirby

Alex Restrepo Mar 9 2019 12:00 AM

February 24thBen,I just wanted to write and to tell you how much I miss you. I know you are here with me and you are here with us, but I just wanted to tell you how much I miss you, and how much I love you.Our memories, and the memories that we created seem so special now - so very special. From seeing concerts together, to driving up and down the California coast, to traveling to Barcelona, to being in Germany together, to all the times we spent in Chicago together!They all seem so special. Your generosity was incredible. You were a Buddha, and you were sending messages the entire time about what is important in this world. You served such a purpose on this planet. You loved. And, you are loved. Your death can bring both healing and wisdom.I love you, Ben. I always will.Love,Your brother

Nathaniel Boyden Feb 24 2019 12:00 AM

My condolences to the Boyden family for their recent loss.

Elizabeth A. Heritage Jan 21 2019 12:00 AM

Ben, i only spent 10 days with you, but you are an incredible light and it helped bring me out of one of my shells- i'm still growing and i've made a huge step im making myself vulnerable- i'm scared of course, but i've got strength now and it started by opening that something to you. Thank you ben! I continue to share the love!

Seth aka sycodelix Jan 17 2019 12:00 AM

I am heartbroken to hear this. As a mother, Suzanne, I dont have words to adequately express how sorry I am for the pain your heart must feel. I loved reading these tributes and hearing of Bens love for words. I teach writing classes to teenagers using the Amherst Writers and Artists method and I will never again teach the class without thinking of Ben. What a beautiful legacy he has left for his nieces and nephews-filling their shelves with books and their hearts with stories, adventures and imagination. Praying for peace to embalm you all and the love and light he so mightily pursued to envelop you in tender memories. Julie Cole

Julie Cole-Marie Jan 12 2019 12:00 AM

Wishing you small comfort in this time of sorrow. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. With deepest sympathy. From Elmojahid and Sabeur family!

Jan 12 2019 12:00 AM

A candle was lit in memory of Benjamin Boyden

Tye Jan 12 2019 12:00 AM

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